Understanding that life is cyclical changes life

How can you work with life, use the existing currents for your higher Purpose and Wellbeing instead of fighting upstreams.

How can you work with life, use the existing currents for your higher Purpose and Wellbeing instead of fighting upstreams.

This is the exploration I invite you to take as we contemplate life’s cyclical nature.

I never questioned the daily cycle of night succeeding to day. I accepted getting tired at night, not questioning the signal to go to sleep, knowing that there would be a new day with renewed energy after I slept. This has been the cycle most obviously accepted and followed in my life and in our culture.

Seasons are also obvious in the countries I have been living in. But I’ve never really met any deeper acknowledgment of winter’s invitation to rest and reflect nor even really the suggestion that so was the case before a few years ago. It was more something to work against: take some vitamins, find alternative sources of light and keep going in your work and life.

As I went through my journey, learning natural farming 9 years ago, spending blessed hours in my kitchen garden 🪴 under the sky and with Life, I began to feel the desire to live more in symbiosis with Life and the seasons.

3 years ago in a weekend retreat I heard about “8 shields” (www.8shields.org) where the similarity in energy of the daily, yearly and human life cycles were highlighted and explored as a compass to navigate life more harmoniously and it reinforced my desire to find ways of living honoring more of these natural rhythms.

Still I needed to understand deeper and integrate that much more of life is cyclical.

I had really hard times in my low energy phases and emotional state. I grew up with a mother who experienced depression most of her life. I also experienced times of depression. So each time my energy goes in a lower low, there is a contraction growing in me, a fear of staying stuck in that energy level.

Have you ever felt in a similar way?

A couple of years ago as I worked with my mentor Stephanie Fabela (www.allaboutintimacy.com) I began to understand that my emotions also where following a wave, and that any high would be followed by a low, like night follows day. And that I wasn’t feeling low energy because of anything I would have done wrong. Still I had a hard time to trust that lows were as temporary as highs were. 

Last year my awareness was drawn to the moon cycle and more and more of the other planets 🪐. Hearing about these transits and the influence they have helped me relax more and make it less about my own abilities but understanding that this is the world I’m living into and there is so much more than the succession of day and night that is around and impact my energy. It teaches me deeper acceptance of my energy level, not needing to know exactly what is at play, but just know that my tiredness is part of my body intelligence so that I may take a pause, reflect, integrate and reassess. 

This knowledge helps my mind to accept more easily to let go of blindly pushing through and instead give myself what I need, liberating a lot of energy otherwise used in creating additional mind made suffering.

When I can see my emotional waves as a cycle that I don’t have to question in the same way as night following day, I find a deeper trust in life and can ease and embrace my low times, going with the flow of life instead of fighting against it.

In Creative Conversations Ep.5 we talked about cycles and the impact of understanding and honoring or ignoring the multiple cycles that are woven in the fabric of life and it made it clear that this conversation is needed as it hasn’t been a way of approaching life for many of us before starting our transformation journeys. 

The video in this post are my reflections extracted from this Creative Conversation.

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Just before the light

I’m in the midst of a birthing process

The pain goes high, the pattern and dynamics at play repeat themselves to make me more and more clearly aware of what’s going on. The suffering increases for each instance. The discomfort is getting way out off my tolerance. It hurts so much. So I’m ready. Ready to learn, ready to meet, ready to love.

I made an appointment with my favorite reality reframer- a mentor coach – to help me midwifing and find a new perspective.

A new layer of my being is ready to be loved. An old story and belief is ready to be seen through new light. An old strategy is ready to be thanked for the service it has been earlier in my life. I’m ready to be let go of the old for a new story, a new reading, a reading that takes into account my growth and the resources I have today compared to where I was when the old strategy come in place.

It’s feels darker than anytime

Picture Pixabay – Illuvis

Although right now, in the midst of the emotional turmoil, it looks like a mess and really a bad place to be, I have the awareness that this is something good. That this is coming up powerfully because I’m ready to take care of this fragment of me, that has been forgotten and put into a dark room to protect me.

It hurts because I have outgrown this old strategy. It once helped, probably saved me, but it’s now far too small for me to continue where my love for Life guides me.

If you wonder why I’m speaking in so general terms, it’s just because the process is still ongoing and the clarity of what wants to transform isn’t here yet. I just have the clarity that this dramatical emotional turmoil that I would have judged earlier as a solid proof of my inadequacy and my inability of taking properly care of myself, that this is a sign of growth, a new aspect ready to be welcomed in love.

Touching the basic need of connection

The pattern playing out and that hurts these days is affecting my relationships and this affects me deeply as I so intensely feel my need and longing for nurturing loving connections. It goes in a spiral where I notice painfully how I retract from connections, seeing the dynamic repeating itself, with a feeling of being out of control, fearing to create more pain, more suffering, and above all fearing loosing the love of these people- some so dear to me.

As a gift in synchronicity with my needs, a friend drew my attention yesterday to a talk of Eckart Tolle who reminded me that suffering is the fuel for us to make the commitment to meet that which no longer serves us. Because as long as the discomfort is bearable, we avoid meeting the unknown and the pain. So life generously gives us exactly what we need for us to grow.

Picture: Pixabay – Glady

My purpose in writing this is to shine a light on these transformation processes we go through. To increase the understanding of these crisis. To awake your curiosity and compassion next time you find yourself in an emotional storm, where something seems unraveling and impossible to solve. To know that you are OK and that these moments are opportunities to meet aspects of yourself that are ready to be taken care of the person you have become.

I’m also sharing because this is a vulnerable place that we are taught to hide, concealed in shame, that need more light and courage to be exposed. So that we can learn from each other that we are good, that the messiness is not a sign of failure and unworthiness, but a part of a process from which more life, joy and freedom can emerge.

Please comment below, what arise in you after this reading? Insight? Questions? Something else?

With love and compassion.

PS: Here is the link if you feel curious about Eckart’s teaching:

Dissolving fear

During a walk in a rocky track in the archipelago, as I began to feel hesitant and contracted, evaluating how to take the next step and avoid risk for falling or hurting myself, I rediscovered this tools and had a deepened insight into it.

We all have automatic responses to life and in this case when it comes to fear. And as we go through life we also get aware that these automated responses don’t serve us so well anymore but are more a restriction to how we can really live our lives.

Do the opposite

So the first tool is noticing – the fear and my automatic response. And in the case of contraction, tightening that makes it difficult and hard to move. When I notice that, I can make a new choice and do the opposite of freezing and tighten, by choosing to move softly, fluidly, in another part of my body then the one engaged in the action eliciting fear. And by moving softly that way, my body receives the signal that it’s safe to move, and can go back to its own intelligence without interference of the mind and smoothly do the next step, with ease, in it’s own knowing.

Back to body intelligence

So next time you notice your body contracting in a situation, allow yourself to move softly, oozing and discover how your body moves you forward with a new freedom to action.

Related post: Melting fears into flow

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  • The healing of being seen

    “The healing magic that happens on retreat, happens through letting ourselves be seen. […] parts of ourselves we get validated instead of violated. […] One layer at a time, let down the shields. ” Darla LeDoux

    That’s what I’ve experienced in the Circle Way of Medicine Story, the magic of being witnessed and loved in all our parts. And later I experienced this principle in the powerful transforming tools of Christian Pankhurt’s HeartIQ circles, where we are invited to expand our emotional range, discover our core goodness and own more and more of ourselves. These are some of my inspiration and tools for what I want to bring into this world.

    I invite you to listen to Darla’s podcast episode where she explains transformation to get a fooler understanding and normalise it, inclusive the scary messy aspects on the always evolving path of our lives.

    So what are YOU afraid to be judged for? And what would become available if you owned that aspect of yourself?

    What are you ready to come out with? Please share in the comments!

    Melting fears into flow

    Here is a short video to show you different ways to move the energy of fear and let it flow again.

    We have basically 4 ways to respond to fear:

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    1. fight – you express anger
    2. Flee – you run away – physically or mentally
    3. Freeze – you don’t move, hold your breath not to be discovered
    4. Faint – you loose your energy, feel drained

    When noticing that you are acting from fear, you can choose to loose this up with
    1. Oozing- soft, undulating movements
    2. Take a Sumo stand, grounded and stable
    3. Shake your fingers, body, legs, letting your energy flow again
    4. Scoop love toward the scary part of you.

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    Try, combine, breath and see what happens when you actively choose to move your fear.

    How does it feel? Tell me!
    Live well!