transformation – Olivia Florian

Life balance

How do we stay resilient and how do healthy masculine and feminine energies reconciled look like?

May 10, 2022 VibrantLivingLifeLeave a comment

How life is taking unforeseen turns!

This video from a year ago on the topic of balance between feminine flow and masculine structure is so juicy and seeing it today as I recently came back into the corporate world, I see how this is a very actual theme for me. Ifind myself challenged in my balance, struggling to find a new way of being where my feminine essence is both nourished and also invite the masculine goal oriented doer in me to breathe and remember why I’m here.

After a few weeks connecting to the goodness and the potential of bringing more of what lights me up : to contribute to the change in the world I want to see, I am challenged, experiencing old ways of being in a similar environment to the one “back then” and wondering how to create balance, ease, and take care of this part of me that get caught in the stress and rush in the work culture and that is afraid when she doesn’t have all the answers to what is presented to her.

Obviously the difficulties I meet are beyond balance of masculine and feminine energies. It’s also trusting to slow down when everything seems to accelerate and push. Trusting that by pausing and not doing for a moment will allow me to see more clearly. And trusting that I can handle what is presented to me even if in the moment the amount of information feels overwhelming and I have no idea yet about the way forward.

I’m writing about these chalenges I face and my unhealthy ways because once again I’ve got aware that I mostly share with you when I am in a place where I feel good enough and when inspiration is back. That’s quite natural but it also participate to a faulty idea that all is only well and under control for me when it is not. And I don’t want to feed anymore the myth of having everything under control or feed the pretending shiny surface that so many present on social media letting each one of us feeling inadequate when life is challenging.

So I’m challenged and out of balance. Having top much activities, doing, and not enough down time. Not even willing to fully choose down time because I feel the urge to compensate for the non inspired draining hours. Not willing to listen until my body doesn’t allow me to continue and imposes me rest.

I’m grateful that I see it and know that this strong contrast is calling me to change my behaviors. To change my beliefs and change a narrative that no longer serves me. That there is always a way. And that I am learning all the time and I can celebrate how much I already have grown.

Balance
Rest
Silence
Do
Play
Remember
Letting go
Relax
Love
Be
Just be

And Trust, in Life, in myself and reassure the young one in me – everything is always working out for me.

This was the Creative Conversation we had on the topic of reconciliating feminine flow and masculine structure. Enjoy and share what resonates with you 🧡

Just before the light

Aug 12, 2019Aug 8, 2019 VibrantLivingLifeLeave a comment

I’m in the midst of a birthing process

The pain goes high, the pattern and dynamics at play repeat themselves to make me more and more clearly aware of what’s going on. The suffering increases for each instance. The discomfort is getting way out off my tolerance. It hurts so much. So I’m ready. Ready to learn, ready to meet, ready to love.

I made an appointment with my favorite reality reframer- a mentor coach – to help me midwifing and find a new perspective.

A new layer of my being is ready to be loved. An old story and belief is ready to be seen through new light. An old strategy is ready to be thanked for the service it has been earlier in my life. I’m ready to be let go of the old for a new story, a new reading, a reading that takes into account my growth and the resources I have today compared to where I was when the old strategy come in place.

It’s feels darker than anytime

Although right now, in the midst of the emotional turmoil, it looks like a mess and really a bad place to be, I have the awareness that this is something good. That this is coming up powerfully because I’m ready to take care of this fragment of me, that has been forgotten and put into a dark room to protect me.

It hurts because I have outgrown this old strategy. It once helped, probably saved me, but it’s now far too small for me to continue where my love for Life guides me.

If you wonder why I’m speaking in so general terms, it’s just because the process is still ongoing and the clarity of what wants to transform isn’t here yet. I just have the clarity that this dramatical emotional turmoil that I would have judged earlier as a solid proof of my inadequacy and my inability of taking properly care of myself, that this is a sign of growth, a new aspect ready to be welcomed in love.

Touching the basic need of connection

The pattern playing out and that hurts these days is affecting my relationships and this affects me deeply as I so intensely feel my need and longing for nurturing loving connections. It goes in a spiral where I notice painfully how I retract from connections, seeing the dynamic repeating itself, with a feeling of being out of control, fearing to create more pain, more suffering, and above all fearing loosing the love of these people- some so dear to me.

As a gift in synchronicity with my needs, a friend drew my attention yesterday to a talk of Eckart Tolle who reminded me that suffering is the fuel for us to make the commitment to meet that which no longer serves us. Because as long as the discomfort is bearable, we avoid meeting the unknown and the pain. So life generously gives us exactly what we need for us to grow.

My purpose in writing this is to shine a light on these transformation processes we go through. To increase the understanding of these crisis. To awake your curiosity and compassion next time you find yourself in an emotional storm, where something seems unraveling and impossible to solve. To know that you are OK and that these moments are opportunities to meet aspects of yourself that are ready to be taken care of the person you have become.

I’m also sharing because this is a vulnerable place that we are taught to hide, concealed in shame, that need more light and courage to be exposed. So that we can learn from each other that we are good, that the messiness is not a sign of failure and unworthiness, but a part of a process from which more life, joy and freedom can emerge.

Please comment below, what arise in you after this reading? Insight? Questions? Something else?

With love and compassion.

PS: Here is the link if you feel curious about Eckart’s teaching:

Dissolving fear

Aug 5, 2019 VibrantLivingLifeLeave a comment

During a walk in a rocky track in the archipelago, as I began to feel hesitant and contracted, evaluating how to take the next step and avoid risk for falling or hurting myself, I rediscovered this tools and had a deepened insight into it.

We all have automatic responses to life and in this case when it comes to fear. And as we go through life we also get aware that these automated responses don’t serve us so well anymore but are more a restriction to how we can really live our lives.

Do the opposite

So the first tool is noticing – the fear and my automatic response. And in the case of contraction, tightening that makes it difficult and hard to move. When I notice that, I can make a new choice and do the opposite of freezing and tighten, by choosing to move softly, fluidly, in another part of my body then the one engaged in the action eliciting fear. And by moving softly that way, my body receives the signal that it’s safe to move, and can go back to its own intelligence without interference of the mind and smoothly do the next step, with ease, in it’s own knowing.

Back to body intelligence

So next time you notice your body contracting in a situation, allow yourself to move softly, oozing and discover how your body moves you forward with a new freedom to action.

The healing of being seen

Apr 28, 2019Apr 28, 2019 VibrantLivingLifeLeave a comment

“The healing magic that happens on retreat, happens through letting ourselves be seen. […] parts of ourselves we get validated instead of violated. […] One layer at a time, let down the shields. ” Darla LeDoux

That’s what I’ve experienced in the Circle Way of Medicine Story, the magic of being witnessed and loved in all our parts. And later I experienced this principle in the powerful transforming tools of Christian Pankhurt’s HeartIQ circles, where we are invited to expand our emotional range, discover our core goodness and own more and more of ourselves. These are some of my inspiration and tools for what I want to bring into this world.

I invite you to listen to Darla’s podcast episode where she explains transformation to get a fooler understanding and normalise it, inclusive the scary messy aspects on the always evolving path of our lives.

So what are YOU afraid to be judged for? And what would become available if you owned that aspect of yourself?

What are you ready to come out with? Please share in the comments!